Whether you’re a virgin or not, it’s important to have the right attitude before booking an escort date. Having the wrong attitude can make the experience uncomfortable for everyone involved.
Some guys view their virginity as a flaw and believe that women won’t want them. Others think that losing their virginity will be a fun and memorable experience.
1. Tell her you’re a virgin
There are many reasons why a man may book an escort. Some are virgins and want to lose their virginity with a professional, others are looking for something more casual or relaxed than the typical date. Either way, it is important to tell your escort you’re a virgin so she can prepare herself accordingly. She may bring extra condoms or lube if necessary. She’ll also know to turn the music down or change the setting if needed.
She’ll probably find it quite romantic and commendable that you’re a virgin. She’ll also be able to provide you with an incredible experience as a result. Many women love being with virgins and enjoy helping them through the process.
Virgins can have amazing sex just as well as anyone else can. Virgins are often very excited and nervous which can make them a little bit awkward in bed, but that’s what makes it so exciting for experienced partners. Some people are worried that their partner will be able to smell their virginity, but that’s not really possible unless you actually show up in a limo with a sign saying “I’m a virgin”. It’s much more likely that she’ll just be surprised and pleased that you’re so excited about her. This is a big turn on for most people, so don’t let your virgin status stop you from enjoying yourself.
2. Don’t be afraid to ask for help
There’s ostensibly nothing wrong with being a virgin into your 20s, but a millennium of teasing and fragile masculinity can make the idea feel like an albatross. Fortunately, sex workers can offer a place where chasteness is quietly removed, so that you can enjoy the intimacy of a sexual relationship.
Of course, if she knows you’re a virgin she’ll take extra care to ensure your experience is good, but that’s not the only reason to tell her. She can also help you by giving directions: virgins don’t always know what they’re doing, no matter how much porn they watch.
It’s also a good idea to bring a little something, especially wine: this is an easy social lubricant and makes for a great first impression. Bringing a gift will also make her more likely to remember your encounter, and everybody likes feeling special.
Some people may argue that seeing an escort is a sign of desperation, but they’re missing the point: plenty of people see sex workers to have their sexual needs met. It’s not about being desperate or having low self-esteem – it’s about getting the most out of your paid sexual experience, and being as prepared as possible for it. And that’s not something that any man should be ashamed of. For example, a quadriplegic Australian woman hired a male sex worker to help her lose her virginity at the age of 43, and it was the best decision she ever made.
3. Don’t be afraid to talk about your expectations
The thing is, male virginity can be a real burden, especially for young men who are afraid of losing their masculinity. It’s easy to imagine a guy who is just coming out of high school having limited sexual experience into his 20s and feeling like it will define him for the rest of his life. And that’s exactly what sex workers help with: They give guys who are losing their virginity a safe space to have their first time in an environment where they’re not being judged.
That being said, it’s important to talk about your expectations with the sex worker you choose. This doesn’t have to be a formal discussion, but it should be a conversation that helps you to understand what she expects from the experience and make your own decisions about what you want from her.
For example, if you tell an escort that you’re a virgin, she may be more hesitant to go as hard as you might expect. She may be worried that you’ll just be using her and she won’t feel as good about the experience. That’s not the kind of sex worker you want to choose, so it’s important to talk about your expectations from the beginning. That way, you can avoid any surprises and ensure that the experience is what you want it to be.
4. Don’t be afraid to be honest
In an age of Reddit/4chan/incel-fueled social opprobrium, male virginity can feel like a crippling albatross. But it doesn’t have to be: “The fact that you’re a virgin shouldn’t be something you have to hide, but it is a topic to discuss with anyone you date,” licensed clinical psychologist Rebekah Montgomery tells INSIDER. Of course, it’s important to time it right — you don’t want to tell someone about your virginity on the first date, but if you know that you’ll likely be getting sex with them in the future, it makes sense to let them know about it early on.
If you tell your escort you’re a virgin, they can help prepare for the experience and supply any necessary equipment, such as condoms or lube. They’ll also be able to provide you with tips and advice about losing your virginity, which can make the whole experience much more enjoyable.
If you’re a virgin, an escort service can be the perfect way to lose your virginity without having to worry about putting yourself at risk of disease or getting judged by future partners. Just be sure to choose a reputable escort service and keep your expectations in check so that you don’t end up disappointed. And don’t forget — your first time with an escort isn’t just about sex; it’s about gaining confidence and learning more about yourself.